Social needs of friend, lover & family

  Last week, Sir Anwari had covered the chapter 9 during the lecture class. This chapter is about the social need that we needed in our daily life which includes friends, lover, and also families.
  Interpersonal relationship between two persons that is mutually productive and characterized by mutual positive regard is called friendships. The needs that friendships may serve are utility which is someone that may have special skills or resources that will help to achieve goals. Next, affirmation is someone who will affirm our personal value. Ego support is someone who behaves in a supportive, encouraging, and helpful manner. Stimulation is someone who introduces us to new ideas and new ways of seeing the world. The last one is security which mean someone who does nothing to hurt us. Moreover, three main stages of friendship are initial contact and acquaintanceship, two individuals see themselves as separate and distinct, rather than one unit; casual friendship, a clear sense of We,more open; close and intimate friendship, an exclusive unit, view as important. For culture and friendships, generally, friendships are closer in collectivist cultures than in individualist cultures. Gender and friendships: women self-disclose more than men. Women offer more intimate details and more affection. Men build friendships around shared activities. Technology and friendships: online relationships by texting. Online friendships offer a sense of belonging without face to face contact.

Where there are friends, there is wealth.

  There are six major types of love which are eros, beauty and sexuality (physical attractions); ludus, entertainment and excitement (ludic lover retains partner as long as the partner is amusing or interesting); storge, peaceful and slow (establish companionship with someone that has common interests); pragma, practical and traditional (seeks relationships that will work); mania, elation and depression (extreme highs and lows); agape, compassionate and selfless (compassionate, egoless, and self-giving).

Life is nothing without love.

  Last, traditional couples is one of the types of family which mean share a basic belief system and philosophy of life. Independent couples are stress their individuality and separate couples are live together but view their relationships a a convenience. 4 generational communication patterns includes equality, balanced split, unbalanced split and monopoly. Through this, each person shares equally and has authority over different domains. One person dominates in more than half of the areas.

Family is not an important thing, it is EVERYTHING.